The Fighting Between God’s Children on YouTube!!! (Video Link)
Shame shame I know your name! That is all I want to say to all those fussing and fighting…shame on them! Walk in harmony, peace and understanding of each other right up till the very end…well almost. BAM! The enemy is hitting hard now and how delighted in himself must he be?
I just did a video and I really should have titled it “Don’t Call Anyone Fat!” If you have not realized yet, that what comes out of your mouth, can and will swing back around and stick to you in record time flat, well, you are in for a BIG surprise…HUGE! God makes it where we all have to feel what we put out, good, bad, kind or ugly…that is just the way He rolls! When we judge others without literally walking in their exact footsteps, we too must be judged. When we venture into ignorance or into an area “above our pay-grade”, we must be brought to a level of awareness of how our words or actions made others feel and I’m sure I’m not the only one who has found this out the hard-way!
When we are small, innocent of God’s demands and ways, He understands we speak from a place of immaturity, not fully understanding just what we are releasing from our mouth…it is done usually in a “knee-jerk-reaction” scenario, a “in-the-moment” counterattack/response to someone else’s actions or words and done so without true thought and meaning. But now, as we age and become “all-the-wiser”, we should know better that to claim ignorance to the consequences He will send our way. How many times have we been witness to this in our own life?
When I was 33 years old, I was at the top-of-my-game as I call it. Fit, active, full-of-life, great job, great life, great everything! I had just met my future husband (husband #2) and thought God has blessed me with the absolute “Perfect Man”…Ha – was I misinformed…I totally missed the memo that day! Those days I felt as if I walked from cloud to cloud because I just could not believe the “Lord” put this wonderful 6’4″ man in my life – totally over-the-moon! Like most of us, along with him came a past, a ex-wife, children, guilt, blame, remorse and secrets. I had no idea what I had let myself and my children walk into and one of those things was the bitter, resent-filled ex-wife who hated my guts and was terribly mean to me. She hurt my feelings over and over but it was when she spoke outright lies about my children that got me “festering” and ready-for-battle. I was clueless then and had no idea you could not eventually win over people that truly hated you with everything they had inside – even when they knew nothing about you. Finally, my last button was pushed and I opened my mouth to release words I knew would cut her to the core…”Well, your fat! You have permed-hair from the 80’s and dress like your mother!” I did not want to say it and afterwards, it really did not make me feel better, okay, maybe for a few days it gave me some pleasure, but after they passed, I regretted each and every word but I could not take them back…shame on me!
It’s hard sometimes always taking the high-road because you have no release for all that build-up of “yuk” that accumulates over time…I did not have the tools and the armor I have now and probably, I’m only guessing, most others my age didn’t either. God had special plans for me, I know this now and I knew it then, so He always had to allow me to feel my actions so I could 1) understand others with heart-filled compassion; 2) learn to hold my tongue when the enemy whispered in my ear; 3) pray for my enemies and mean it; 4) become the child He ordained me to be; and 5) feel the pain of others that was caused by my own actions and/or words so I would never do it again. So, now, He had to make sure I felt the pain and true definition of my own words…I too got fat! I went from a size 4 petite to a size 14 PETITE within just a few months…it was like watching the little girl on Willie Wonka turn into the rollie-pollie blueberry and the little Oompa Loompa mixed all in one! I literally looked like I would pop if someone stuck me with a sharp object! Then, guess what happened after that…I too now had to wear clothes like my mother, yes, yes, yes I did! I could not tuck anything in or show any of my rolls so I had to wear larger over-sized “open-hang” clothes to hide all that weight underneath (yeah, like that was ever gonna happen). At 33, I was all about my style which was neat, clean straight lines and all my clothes were Tommy Hilfiger, Ralph Lauren, Ann Taylor – the classic looks because they never go out-of-style and look good on everyone. I’ve always had my own style…love a great pair of classic jeans, nice crisp ironed white shirt, a navy blue or camel colored blazer and a great pair of low-heeled boots or penny loafers. I could not get one of my legs into the waistband of my jeans and my Hulk broad-sized shoulders were bursting every jacket seam I had. I was miserable but, at the same time, don’t think I didn’t know down deep inside of me, that I did this to myself and God was teaching me a great lesson so I would not be so “ignorant” the next time someone hurt my feelings or was “mean-to-me”!
If these lessons are not allowed, how do ever become the children He made us to be? How do we learn when evil attached itself like a second-skin? We cannot live a life always fighting fire-with-fire because if we did, what is left that has not been burned by the flames? What beauty is left on this earth? He allows our lessons so we will learn to hold-our-tongues so we ourselves can become the beauty of this world; a beautiful work-of-art that the Father Himself made to represent Him so He could place us among the thorns so they would not be what one saw first – they would see God’s Handiwork of Goodness and Beauty among the evil and ugly. How can we be His “Beacons-of-Light” if we do not fear the darkness – that dark place we seem to reside in while each lesson/consequence is being allowed and learned? Did that make sense? I was not nearly at my best confidence wise or health wise and never wanted to go back to that place again so I quickly watched my footing and speech. Please do not think this was the first or last lesson God allowed in my life over judgments or comments made toward someone or about them and their life…oh no, no, did it a few times before this and a few times after this and each time – I felt my words “bounce off them and stick back to me”!
I’m now much older and wiser but still, people hurt me and cause me pain and heartache and of course retaliation is a thought and option, but refuse those resources. Use what God has placed at your disposal – Jesus Christ of Nazareth…He is always the best, most wise choice and should always be our default “go-to” response. He knows what He is talking about when He warns us of what to do and what not to do…they’re all right there in His Word, so it’s not like we haven’t been told, taught and shown in black and white. He means what He says…literally!
It’s hard to be on the other end of ridicule, misunderstanding, evil/harsh words spoken by people who are supposed to be like you…people who you thought were like you, understood you and knew you. When these are the ones being “mean-to-you”, it is truly heartbreaking but realize this, you have no power to change the way they think or see things but Jesus does. Jesus knows who you are, what you do or don’t do and who you belong to! That is all that matters! If someone does not understand or does not “get” something, they are not meant to…the message/teaching is not for them so wipe your hands off like your sweeping off a light layer of dust from them and move-on, forgetaboutit! Let Jesus take it from there before it becomes a pride issue…let them learn THAT lesson while you get 10’s for taking the high-road, the one He wished you walked each and every time! This will only get worse now, realize this and just keep your focus on Him…keep looking straight ahead – not to the left and not to the right, but straight because that is where He is and that my dear friends, is where we are going!